Alanon teaches men and women to live with alcoholics, both practicing and sober. These guidelines and resources are provided as adobe acrobat documents pdf. You may have heard some of these slogans hundreds of times before without ever taking them seriously or trying to put them to work. A directory listing does not endorse any group or its practice of the traditional alanon program. Alanon, alateen, and professional studies of alcoholism and the family. Many of us have done so with resentment, bitter silence, or loud and angry condescension. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if i felt that i had to keep it up for a lifetime.
Anon s practices and principles that take a while to learn and apply, the al. Im starting at alanon due to a family members drinking. Bethesda presbyterian church education bldg 7611 clarendon rd, bethesda follow signs to del ray club, enter back of church, go up the stairs. Other tools of alanon recovery slogans, the serenity prayer. Report changes in the group name, meeting place, meeting day or time. Apr 09, 2019 hello to all members and future members of our ppg alanon group, effective april 1, 2019 our meeting dialin number and access code have been changed. Alanon teaches family and friends of alcoholics they cannot control another persons drinking habits.
But many of us find it difficult even to begin this selffocused process because we have lost track. Alanon family groups of southeastern wisconsin summit place 6737 w. The exclusive use of cal in alanon meetings supports alanons first tradition. The al anon service center is closed until further notice.
By carole bennett, ma alanon faces alcoholism, pages 47. Hello to all members and future members of our ppg alanon group, effective april 1, 2019 our meeting dialin number and access code have been changed. Alateen is part of the alanon fellowship designed for the younger relatives and friends of alcoholics through the teen years. Aisdcsmd 278 carroll street, nw, washington, dc 20012. In the formative years of aa, the wives and relatives of aas realized that they too could. But there is much misunderstanding about this tool and how alanon detachment works. Al anon can help al anon is a worldwide fellowship that offers a program of recovery for the families and friends of alcoholics, whether or not the alcoholic recognizes the existence of a drinking problem or seeks help. An alanon call or meeting could be just what we need to help us separate ourselves from the symptoms and effects of the disease without separating ourselves from the human being.
Detachment is one of the most valuable techniques alanon of fers those of us who seek to reclaim ourselves. Other tools of alanon recovery slogans, the serenity prayer, detachment slogans in times of need or distress, we use these ideas and remind ourselves of the underlying principles they embody to help bring us better perspective to our circumstances. Alanon, a mutualhelp group for people with alcoholic friends or family members, pioneered the idea of detachment with love. Learning detachment started for me with the first of the twelve steps of alanonadmitting that i was powerless over my. The wso will register any group designating itself as an alanon family group with the understanding that it will abide by the traditions and that meetings will be open to any alanon member. If telling your a you are going to alanon will hamper your recovery, or cause you harm, then dont tell. I just received word that al anon meetings meet my requirements for the classes i am required to take 10 for my dui. The alanon service center is closed until further notice. Al kohallek alcoholic his wife, allienon al anon and als sponsor louis pazeniton lou is passing it on are the main characters in our examples. Let it begin with mewhen anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of alanon and alateen always be there and let it begin with me. One of the first tools taught in alanon is detachment from the behaviors of the alcoholic. Other tools of alanon recovery slogans, the serenity. Hope and help for family and friends of alcoholics. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity.
Simply put, detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people. We believe alcoholism is a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery. In the context of the alanon program, detach with love is the idea that the family has to let go of their loved ones problem. In alanon we learn nothing we say or do can cause or stop someone elses drinking.
Free downloads click here for free download in english click here for free download in french fp87 click here for free download in spanish sp87 about alanons beginnings, and how lois w. We will tell part of their journey through this process, this way of life. Neither kind, nor unkind there are valuable principles we can learn from the alanon program. At my last alanon meeting a few members mentioned setting boundaries. Al anon suggests the words of the serenity prayer can help us gain perspective, sort out what we can and cannot do, and discover when to act and when to let go. Connections between families, the association for addiction professionals, and al. Does anyone have a pdf of the how al anon works and the one day at a time books. Alanon family groups of colorado area assembly, inc. They cannot control another persons behaviors of any kind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation from which we are detaching. Alanon family groups alanon, 12step mutualhelp groups for families and friends of problemdrinking individuals, offer help to deal with the impact of anothers drinking.
Many alanon family group meetings begin with the suggested al anonalateen welcome, which starts. A twelve step workbook al kohallek goes stepping an eye i witness account who is al kohallek. The books and pamphlets can strengthen your recovery, but they cannot substitute for the help and healing that takes place at alanon meetings in the context of a complete recovery program. The november 9, 1973 minutes of the international convention committee for alanonalateen activities in the 1975 a. Anon members share their insights and experiences with each other. Alanon can help alanon is a worldwide fellowship that offers a program of recovery for the families and friends of alcoholics, whether or not the alcoholic recognizes the existence of a drinking problem or seeks help. Alanon literature is most fully understood when used in conjunction with other tools of the program. After all, they are cliches, and easy to disregard. We also carry a few titles in spanish and can order others on request. Twenty questions for adult children of alcoholics to decide if they can benefit from alanon.
Report changes in the name andor contact information of the group representative, alternate group representative, current mailing address, or telephone contacts for wso. Downloadable resources north florida, district 12 afg alanon. In the formative years of aa, the wives and relatives of aas realized that they too could improve their lives by applying the spiritual principles of aa. By ricardo a santiago lmhc, ms october 23, 2019 no comments. No yes important things to know when starting an alanon meeting. Alanon is not a religious organization or a counseling agency. If telling your a you are going to al anon will hamper your recovery, or cause you harm, then dont tell.
We let go of our obsession with anothers behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights. Budnick introduction this year 2011, alanon is celebrating the sixtieth anniversary of its founding. Al anon focuses on our own recovery and how to take care of ourselves. Alanon family groups of southeastern wisconsin serving. Here you will find printable order forms for alanon literature. Alanon declaration alanon and alateen family groups. Form 990 documents requested and processed by public. I was too shy to ask the other members what they specifically used as boundaries, so would anyone mind. To access the service manual, enter the members area, then click on publications, then click on service manual. How to help an addict by detaching with love hazelden betty ford. Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization. Anonalateen intergroup carry an almost complete selection of conference approved literature in english, although occasionally an item may be out of stock.
Al anon detachment is not judgmental, unkind, or condemning. Ppg alanon the spiritual principles of alanon big book study. Alanon focuses on our own recovery and how to take care of ourselves. Detachment with love means caring enough about others to allow them to learn from their mistakes. It is not a treatment center nor is it allied with any other organization offering such services. So the declaration was created 35 years ago, and the wording has not changed since that time. Dec 18, 2012 alanon family groups alanon, 12step mutualhelp groups for families and friends of problemdrinking individuals, offer help to deal with the impact of anothers drinking. When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help let the hand of al anon and alateen always be there, and let it begin with me. Does anyone have a pdf of the how alanon works and the one day at a time books. A brief history of alanon alanon is almost as old as alcoholics anonymous aa. This workbook is designed to be used with alanons twelve steps and twelve traditions.
Alanons third tradition states that as a group we have no other affiliation. Alanon family groups, which includes alateen for teenage members, neither express opinions on outside issues nor endorse outside enterprises. In al anon we learn individuals are not responsible for another persons disease or recovery from it. Alanon declaration alanon and alateen family groups santa. We do this by learning to focus on ourselves, build on our strengths, and ask for and accept help with our limitations. Alanon is the most widely used form of help for cos in the united states miller et al. How to help an addict by detaching with love hazelden. Detachment is one of the most valuable techniques al anon. We welcome you to the name of group alanon family group and hope you will find in this fellowship the help and friendship we have been privileged to enjoy.
Alanon has published guidelines and resources that represent the shared. Living with the effects of someone elses drinking is too devastating for most people to bear without help. Im starting at al anon due to a family members drinking. In relation to alcoholism, it is the process that allows family and friends to separate themselves from the adverse effects that another persons alcoholism can have upon their lives. Detachment from a family member with alcoholism verywell mind. Home more about alanon readings alanon declaration alanon declaration let it begin with me. The enmeshment that characterizes an alcoholic relation ship does just the opposite. The alanonalateen service manual for 2010 20 can be accessed and downloaded in pdf form from the alanonalateen member section of the alanon web site please see the information above to access the members area. For friends and family of a person dealing with alcohol or drug addiction, detachment can be a difficult concept to grasp. A core principle of alanon is that alcoholics cannot learn from their mistakes if they are overprotected. Anon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems.
I didnt tell my rah for a while that i was going to al anon, but eventually during one of his recovery periods, i told him and nothing negative came of it. Al anon is almost as old as alcoholics anonymous aa. Oct 23, 2019 al anon detachment teaches family and friends of the alcoholic to focus on their own behaviors instead of the behaviors of the alcoholic. In alanon we learn individuals are not responsible for another persons disease or recovery from it. When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help let the hand of alanon and alateen always be there, and let it begin with me. This workbook is designed to help people study, learn, and practice the twelve steps of alanon in their lives. S19 detachment detachment can help us look at our situation realistically. I am very excited about this because i was planning on starting meetings anyway.
Detachment can help us look at our situations realistically and objectively. By focusing on things on can change, one will feel hopeful again. These people have learned to live with drunks, as selfish and selfserving as any abuser. In fact, many abusers also suffer from related disorders such as. Alanon family groups is a worldwide fellowship that offers a program of recovery for the families and friends of alcoholics, whether or not the alcoholic recognizes the existence of a drinking problem or seeks help.
I didnt tell my rah for a while that i was going to alanon, but eventually during one of his recovery periods, i told him and nothing negative came of it. Al anon family groups of southeastern wisconsin summit place 6737 w. Here we will explain what detachment is and the goals of the. Living with the effects of someone elses drug use is too devastating for most people to bear without help. Alanonalateen information service of washington dc and suburban maryland, inc. Although i first needed to learn detachment because of the alcoholics i loved, it is now a guiding principle in many other situations, one of the powerful alanon principles that, as. For general inquiries, contact the world service office at. Alanon family group alanon family group online 12 step forums.
Alanon read carole bennetts article in alanon faces alcoholism 2012 magazine. Becoming an alanon member involved in alateen service amias. Does it imply that alanons help is for anyone with any type of problems. Alanon, alateen, and professional studies of alcoholism and. This assumes to be true what abraham lincoln said, that most folks are as happy as they make up their. Please use the alanon registrationgroup records form gr1 to register a new alanon group. Im flat broke, moving, and cannot afford much other than foodtravel expenses. Although i first needed to learn detachment because of the alcoholics i loved, it is now a guiding principle in many other situations, one of the powerful alanon principles that, as our twelfth step says, we practice in all our affairs. This literature supplements the facetoface meetings where al. Anon family groups published more than 100 books and pamphlets that share alanon s single purpose. Just for today i will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. Other tools of al anon recovery slogans, the serenity prayer, detachment slogans in times of need or distress, we use these ideas and remind ourselves of the underlying principles they embody to help bring us better perspective to our circumstances.
My first meeting is tomorrow at noon and it is formulated for newcomers. Over the course of these years, alanon has emerged as the prevailing longterm support model for. Detachment, love, and forgiveness personal boundaries alanon recovery is about reclaiming our own lives. Seperating ourselves from the adverse effects of another person alcoholism can be a means of detaching. Phone calls and emails will be monitored and responded to. Members give and receive comfort and understanding through a mutual exchange of experience, strength, and hope. Alanon detachment means separating oneself from the effects of a loved ones drinking problem.
Click here to download a literature order form pdf contact the kansas afg literature center. God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference. One day at a time think let go and let god easy does it listen and learn. Alateen meetings consist of younger family members assisted.
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